Be Positive

How can one have a positive thought process when the surrounding is full of negativity?

Honestly, I was not only disappointed but also badly affected with the negative vibes which seems to be omnipresent.

There is a continuous tussle for no apparent reason between the Congress and BJP supporters; who actually knows nothing about the real policies and their impacts. The media is also seems to be spreading the negative news more than the positive ones. On the Independence Day, when we should be discussing the freedom fighters and the countries history; I found the television media is busy discussing the Modi Government’s failures! The print media is also not far behind in spreading negative vibes. We all know, how Times of India has been criticized to its core in social media when they publish a half page article about Yakub Memon’s funeral and gave a very little importance to our former president APJ Abdul Kalam’s funeral, which took place on the same day. When to get rid of these negativities, I logged into any of the social media accounts of mine, there also I face the same issue. I found some people thought their religious sentiment got hurt because the celebrity singer Sonu Nigam posted his thoughts on twitter about the so called God women who is there in news for all the wrong reasons! I wonder if your religious sentiments are so fragile that a mere statement can hurt it!

Anyway, as I said at the beginning; I was very depressed. These negative thoughts affected me and my thought process. I started blaming the politicians and their supporters; the television and print media; the FB and twitter guys; and even my family, friends and loved ones for the kind of negativity that I was going through. This was the case until yesterday.

Last evening, I was at home. My sister Rashmita was attending an online lecture of MBA from Welingkar Institute of Management. I was simply there half listening to the lecture and simultaneously playing with my smart phone. Mr. Deepak Bhattacharya was the professor for that session. He was explaining some chapters of Marketing Management. But the part I over heard impressed me and changed my thought process. He mentioned that, when a person blames his family or his surrounding for any of his deeds; he is simply providing a reference point! No body can make you do good or bad things unless you get carried away by other’s words to do such a thing. So, finally it is you, who decides what to do and how to react to a situation; the rest of all are simply the reference points!

Eureka! What he says makes absolute sense to me. The politicians, the followers, the media and everyone else whom I blame are merely saying their point of view; and it’s me who is unable to react properly. They are simply a reference point to my negative thinking. And I was solely responsible for my thoughts. Finally, I have decided to change my way of thinking!

Hariharan To Train Visually Impaired Girl

Today morning I woke up with a positive energy. I was trying to look at the world from the new found vision of mine. I picked up my subscribed copy of Hindustan Times and I found this front page positive news; “Hariharan To Train Visually Impaired Girl”. I think I need to share this. A few days back, a video went viral where a blind school girl (Tumpa Kumari) was singing the famous song “Sun Raha Hai Na Tu…” from Aashique 2. A lot of celebrities even noticed and shared this video. A friend of famous Ghazal Singer Hariharan, saw this video and shared it with him. The veteran was so impressed with the voice that he decided to train the girl. And the famous chef Sanjeev Kapoor also gave a helping hand to it. He has decided to fund the training and the related expenses for that girl.

Who says there is only negativity in the air! All we need to get the correct reference point and see the world as we really wanted to see them.

I would like to thank Hindustan Times for putting this article on the front page. I would like to thank singer Hariharan Sir and chef Sanjeev Kapoor for making us believe that good people and positivism are still there. And of course I would like to thank Mr. Deepak Bhattacharya for his wonderful thoughts and for being a correct reference point for me.


Happy Independence Day

The Independence Day is around the corner and there is a patriotic feel everywhere. Everyone suddenly felt a great sense of pride being an Indian. The social media posts are being loaded with patriotic messages and poetries. You feel good that the country has so many patriotic sons and daughters to serve her.

But wait; let me think again! Are we all patriotic? Am I a patriotic son of this country? What is the definition of a patriotic person?

Well, patriotism is a feeling; so everyone can express and define it differently. There can’t be an all inclusive definition for it. But I think, though an act can’t be considered as a benchmark of patriotism but there should be some acts that all patriotic people must adhere to!


I have discussed with some of my friends and get some unique definitions, each to their own. Some one said; the respect for the flag should be there. And he also explained how bad he felt, when a model wear a saree that is decorated with tri-color fashion. Well, I genuinely feel good that, people have that much respect for their flag. I curiously asked if he felt the same emotion when people don’t stand when the National Anthem is being played! To my surprise; he said that honestly, he doesn’t think “Jana Gana Mana…” should be our national anthem. There after he explained me why it is so! Now, I wonder what is more important; your thoughts about the anthem or the fact that; this is our National Anthem which deserves respect.

Another friend of mine told me that he is very patriotic about our country and he respects the traditions of our country. And then I asked him, what he thinks about Mahatma Gandhi? Again, the answer took me into surprise. I don’t like him. And he went on adding few abuses of his own choice. Finally he said; I respect Nathuram Godse a lot! WOW! I simply asked him if he knows that he is disrespecting the father of his own nation and still thinks he is a patriotic man. Then I recall; he is one of those guys who wrote a strong FB status message about how bad he felt that a lot of people attended Yakub Memon’s funeral, a person who has been punished by the honorable Supreme Court of India. And then he called them all unpatriotic! I wonder, what makes him think that he is different from those people when all he did is; disrespect the Father of Nation and praised the one who has been punished by the same honorable Supreme Court of India. I mean, is the definition of patriotism changes according to your convenience?

What I simply mean to say is; you have all the rights to criticize your country, its rules, philosophies and traditions. But you dare not show disrespect towards them. It is absolutely fine that you think the national anthem should be changed or Mahatma Gandhi should not be called as Father of Nation; but you have no rights to disrespect these things as long as they are holding Nation’s pride and status.

What would you call a person, who says I will burn the Indian Flag because I don’t think Ashoka Chakra should be there in the flag, as it has the King Ashoka’s name, who is responsible for the Great Kalinga War? You will call him a fool or unpatriotic? The same applies to all of you, who thinks your believe about the National Anthem or about the Father of Nation is more correct than others.

Now coming again to the basic question, Am I a patriotic?

I am a law abiding citizen but I follow the rules because there is a penalty if I don’t follow them. I don’t follow them simply because I am an Indian. Its FEAR not PATRIOTISM.

I do good things for the benefit of my country; like I vote for the right candidate in the election, I complaint to the respective authority if I found any Govt. officials involved in corruption, etc. However, I only do all these things when my time permits me. I never go out of my way to help the system. Even, I did not vote a couple of elections as I was far away from my hometown!

There are so many things I consider to make me feel that I am a patriotic person but every time I concluded that my so called acts of patriotism are not a pure act of patriotism. Either it was because of fear of the law or sometimes it was meant to make the whole world see how good I am; but none of them are direct result of my patriotism towards the country.

So, I can say that I am a Seasonal Patriotic. I think of this word “Seasonal Patriotic”; just to save my EGO! But in a much simpler term, I admit that I am NOT A PATRIOTIC PERSON. Though, I am improving myself.

This Independence day, I simply request all of you to form your definition of patriotism and judge yourself. If you think, you are a patriotic person then you are! But if you think, you are falling below the standard of being a patriotic person; improve yourself.