Army, an Attitude

Army, an Attitude


It was May, 1999; when some Pakistani troop infiltrated the LOC. After a brave fight by the Indian Army, we finally kicked out the Pakistani intruders. Later, the day 26th July has been marked as Kargil Vijay Diwas. Today, on the occasion of its 18th Anniversary, I am writing this small piece of article as a tribute to the Indian Army.

First of all, this Kargil Vijay Diwas is not a day of celebration; it’s a day of remembrance. On this day, we must show our respect to the 527 Army men who fights to protect our land, to protect us; and sacrificed their life in the service of nation. This 527 is the official death toll of Indian Army; but we all know this death number is not limited to 527. This war has killed more people then they were fighting on the border, it has impacted the 527 families. Other than giving awards and some monetary benefits, we as a country could not do much for the families of these brave soldiers. But there is one thing that we can do and we should do for them; showing respect to the profession and its bearer.

Army; an Attitude


It is not about the uniform,

It is not about the badges on their chest,

It is not about the heavy weapons that they carry,

It is not about the National Flag that will cover their dead body;

So, what it is?

It is an ATTITUDE.

An attitude that carries Nationalism,

An attitude that carries Discipline,

An attitude that carries Courage,

An attitude that carries Sacrifice!

Do you have it in you?

If yes, then you too my friend deserves a salute from me.


I know earth is not meant for souls as precious as you

Happy Birthday Chintu

बहुत दिनों से कुछ लिखना चाहता था तुम पे;
तुम्हारे यादों के फूलों को संजोना चाहता था;
कभी लफ़्ज़ों ने साथ नहीं दिया तो कभी जज्बातों ने.

आज भी हाथ काँप रहे हैं, लफ्ज़ भाग रहे हैं;
जाने क्यों अब भी हिम्मत नहीं हो रही है;

यह हिम्मत,
यह भी तो तुम्हारी ही देन हे,
पहले भी मेरा दिल थोड़ा कमजोर था;
पर तुम्हारा जाना, बहुत कुछ सीखा गया…

दिल पत्थर का तो नहीं बना;
पर अब किसी बात से, इतना दुख़्ता नहीं है;
सह जाता है हर बात बड़ी आसानी से;
जैसे सह गया तुम्हारा हमें छोड़के चले जाना…

आज तुम होते तो पूरे 23 साल के होते!

क्या रोनक होती यहाँ;
तुम अपने बातों से आज भी हमें हसाते;
अपनी शरारतों से सबका दिल जीत जाते…


मुझे यकीं हे;
वहाँ भी तुम्हारा जादू चल गया होगा;
आज वहाँ भी महेफ़िल जम गयी होगी;.

इस जनमदिन मे तुम्हारे;
मे उदास नहीं, बहुत खुश हूँ;
और तुम्हारी तरह,
खुशियाँ बिखेरने की कोशिश कर रहा हूँ.

बस इतना सा दर्द दिल में दबा रहा हूँ;
और जज़्बातों कि धाराओं को आँखो से;
चेहरे की पगडंडी पे उतार रहा हूँ…

Happy Birthday Chintu….Miss you a lot… 😦

Moment of Enlightenment

Like Rishi in Jhankar Beats; each one of us has his/her own moment of enlightenment that comes from taxi drivers, auto drivers, beggars, road side vendors and strangers. Here is my moment of enlightenment. 

My Experience

I was on my way to Thane, along with my aunt and sister. It was a 30-40 minutes journey, so we were casually chit-chatting about the recent socio-political issues. I was telling her about Aamir Khan’s statement on intolerance is so uncalled for! And how stupid it is of the people to discuss Aamir Khan’s personal life rather than the issue! After a few minutes of discussion, the auto driver who was listening to our conversation asked a simple question.

Sir, what is this intolerance?


My sister explained the meaning of intolerance to him in hindi. After listening to her, he asked if the people meant that we should be tolerant to everything! And then he uttered a single line in Hindi, “Har koi tolerant ho jata toh hamen koi Bhagat Singh ya Subhash Bose kabhi nahi milte”! (If everyone becomes tolerant, we would have never got someone like Bhagat Singh or Subhash Bose).

There he strikes! I was wondering; what intellectual this auto driver was having! And I always thought education is the basic of all intelligence and intellectual thing. Huh!

How responsible are you on Social Media?

Yesterday, I put a random post on my FB wall, where I requested my friends to educate me on net neutrality issue. I got quiet a good response; we debate; we argued; we discussed and it went really well. I thank you all for such a wonderful discussion in my last FB status.

However, the reason behind my last post, where I asked all of you to educate me on net neutrality is to make a simple point! “We Should Not Blindly Support Or Oppose To Any Thing; No Matter How Popular It Seems!”

Everyone should analyze or at least know both the pros and cons of any issue before making any comments and sharing their views on that. See, we always blame media for being a paid one or as they called it now “prestitute”! But is it only the media who should take the responsibility of providing a correct view of everything? What about us? When we share a post in social media, we need to take responsibility for our action too. We simply should not share anything without looking at the whole picture. Two days back, Mark and Modi started a wave in social media when they change their DP in support of Digital India. And within hour, another wave came crashing in which says “FB will use your tri-color profile pic to prove support for” when some one discovered that one of the CSS files of Digital India profile picture actually has a word “_internetOrgProfilePicture”. I mean even people who don’t know what CSS stands for also started sharing this. Do you think after doing so, you have any rights to say that media is biased or paid or whatever word you want to use?

Social Media

It is high time; we should stop blaming everyone and should start looking at what we are doing. We need ask ourselves; “how responsible am I on social media?”

I thank you all once again, who debate, discuss and enlighten my views on this issue. And I hope in future too you all will keep doing so. Love you all.

Be Positive

How can one have a positive thought process when the surrounding is full of negativity?

Honestly, I was not only disappointed but also badly affected with the negative vibes which seems to be omnipresent.

There is a continuous tussle for no apparent reason between the Congress and BJP supporters; who actually knows nothing about the real policies and their impacts. The media is also seems to be spreading the negative news more than the positive ones. On the Independence Day, when we should be discussing the freedom fighters and the countries history; I found the television media is busy discussing the Modi Government’s failures! The print media is also not far behind in spreading negative vibes. We all know, how Times of India has been criticized to its core in social media when they publish a half page article about Yakub Memon’s funeral and gave a very little importance to our former president APJ Abdul Kalam’s funeral, which took place on the same day. When to get rid of these negativities, I logged into any of the social media accounts of mine, there also I face the same issue. I found some people thought their religious sentiment got hurt because the celebrity singer Sonu Nigam posted his thoughts on twitter about the so called God women who is there in news for all the wrong reasons! I wonder if your religious sentiments are so fragile that a mere statement can hurt it!

Anyway, as I said at the beginning; I was very depressed. These negative thoughts affected me and my thought process. I started blaming the politicians and their supporters; the television and print media; the FB and twitter guys; and even my family, friends and loved ones for the kind of negativity that I was going through. This was the case until yesterday.

Last evening, I was at home. My sister Rashmita was attending an online lecture of MBA from Welingkar Institute of Management. I was simply there half listening to the lecture and simultaneously playing with my smart phone. Mr. Deepak Bhattacharya was the professor for that session. He was explaining some chapters of Marketing Management. But the part I over heard impressed me and changed my thought process. He mentioned that, when a person blames his family or his surrounding for any of his deeds; he is simply providing a reference point! No body can make you do good or bad things unless you get carried away by other’s words to do such a thing. So, finally it is you, who decides what to do and how to react to a situation; the rest of all are simply the reference points!

Eureka! What he says makes absolute sense to me. The politicians, the followers, the media and everyone else whom I blame are merely saying their point of view; and it’s me who is unable to react properly. They are simply a reference point to my negative thinking. And I was solely responsible for my thoughts. Finally, I have decided to change my way of thinking!

Hariharan To Train Visually Impaired Girl

Today morning I woke up with a positive energy. I was trying to look at the world from the new found vision of mine. I picked up my subscribed copy of Hindustan Times and I found this front page positive news; “Hariharan To Train Visually Impaired Girl”. I think I need to share this. A few days back, a video went viral where a blind school girl (Tumpa Kumari) was singing the famous song “Sun Raha Hai Na Tu…” from Aashique 2. A lot of celebrities even noticed and shared this video. A friend of famous Ghazal Singer Hariharan, saw this video and shared it with him. The veteran was so impressed with the voice that he decided to train the girl. And the famous chef Sanjeev Kapoor also gave a helping hand to it. He has decided to fund the training and the related expenses for that girl.

Who says there is only negativity in the air! All we need to get the correct reference point and see the world as we really wanted to see them.

I would like to thank Hindustan Times for putting this article on the front page. I would like to thank singer Hariharan Sir and chef Sanjeev Kapoor for making us believe that good people and positivism are still there. And of course I would like to thank Mr. Deepak Bhattacharya for his wonderful thoughts and for being a correct reference point for me.

Happy Independence Day

The Independence Day is around the corner and there is a patriotic feel everywhere. Everyone suddenly felt a great sense of pride being an Indian. The social media posts are being loaded with patriotic messages and poetries. You feel good that the country has so many patriotic sons and daughters to serve her.

But wait; let me think again! Are we all patriotic? Am I a patriotic son of this country? What is the definition of a patriotic person?

Well, patriotism is a feeling; so everyone can express and define it differently. There can’t be an all inclusive definition for it. But I think, though an act can’t be considered as a benchmark of patriotism but there should be some acts that all patriotic people must adhere to!


I have discussed with some of my friends and get some unique definitions, each to their own. Some one said; the respect for the flag should be there. And he also explained how bad he felt, when a model wear a saree that is decorated with tri-color fashion. Well, I genuinely feel good that, people have that much respect for their flag. I curiously asked if he felt the same emotion when people don’t stand when the National Anthem is being played! To my surprise; he said that honestly, he doesn’t think “Jana Gana Mana…” should be our national anthem. There after he explained me why it is so! Now, I wonder what is more important; your thoughts about the anthem or the fact that; this is our National Anthem which deserves respect.

Another friend of mine told me that he is very patriotic about our country and he respects the traditions of our country. And then I asked him, what he thinks about Mahatma Gandhi? Again, the answer took me into surprise. I don’t like him. And he went on adding few abuses of his own choice. Finally he said; I respect Nathuram Godse a lot! WOW! I simply asked him if he knows that he is disrespecting the father of his own nation and still thinks he is a patriotic man. Then I recall; he is one of those guys who wrote a strong FB status message about how bad he felt that a lot of people attended Yakub Memon’s funeral, a person who has been punished by the honorable Supreme Court of India. And then he called them all unpatriotic! I wonder, what makes him think that he is different from those people when all he did is; disrespect the Father of Nation and praised the one who has been punished by the same honorable Supreme Court of India. I mean, is the definition of patriotism changes according to your convenience?

What I simply mean to say is; you have all the rights to criticize your country, its rules, philosophies and traditions. But you dare not show disrespect towards them. It is absolutely fine that you think the national anthem should be changed or Mahatma Gandhi should not be called as Father of Nation; but you have no rights to disrespect these things as long as they are holding Nation’s pride and status.

What would you call a person, who says I will burn the Indian Flag because I don’t think Ashoka Chakra should be there in the flag, as it has the King Ashoka’s name, who is responsible for the Great Kalinga War? You will call him a fool or unpatriotic? The same applies to all of you, who thinks your believe about the National Anthem or about the Father of Nation is more correct than others.

Now coming again to the basic question, Am I a patriotic?

I am a law abiding citizen but I follow the rules because there is a penalty if I don’t follow them. I don’t follow them simply because I am an Indian. Its FEAR not PATRIOTISM.

I do good things for the benefit of my country; like I vote for the right candidate in the election, I complaint to the respective authority if I found any Govt. officials involved in corruption, etc. However, I only do all these things when my time permits me. I never go out of my way to help the system. Even, I did not vote a couple of elections as I was far away from my hometown!

There are so many things I consider to make me feel that I am a patriotic person but every time I concluded that my so called acts of patriotism are not a pure act of patriotism. Either it was because of fear of the law or sometimes it was meant to make the whole world see how good I am; but none of them are direct result of my patriotism towards the country.

So, I can say that I am a Seasonal Patriotic. I think of this word “Seasonal Patriotic”; just to save my EGO! But in a much simpler term, I admit that I am NOT A PATRIOTIC PERSON. Though, I am improving myself.

This Independence day, I simply request all of you to form your definition of patriotism and judge yourself. If you think, you are a patriotic person then you are! But if you think, you are falling below the standard of being a patriotic person; improve yourself.


2nd October!

I wish you all Happy Gandhi Jayanti and Happy Shastri Jayanti.

Oct-2If Gandhi is considered as an idol to the common man; Shastri is definitely a role model for our politicians. Unfortunately, both of them are ill treated by their respective community.


Off late, I found it a bizarre that most of people are only interested in talking about the controversial side of the father of nation. We are no more talking about his honesty, non-violence and self-control. We bend the facts and put the point of view that suits our argument. But my simple question to all the Gandhi haters are, do you really believe that this person has not done anything for the country? Simply because today you are incompetent of following his foot paths, you started ill mouthing about him? No man is perfect but that does not mean you only point out his negative traits. Stop spreading negativity and think if you can simply follow any one of his ideologies.


Lal Bahadur Shastri is a perfect role model for our politicians but again he has been completely forgotten by them. I think he is the last political leader who knew the meaning of self respect and ethic. When he was the Railway Minister of our country, he resigned from his ministry by taking moral responsibility of a train accident that took place during his tenure. I am sure half of the current politicians must be thinking of this as an act of stupidity.

Shastri once said that, “Judiciary in India holds a place of pride in the country and outside. At present, there is a tendency in our country to defy law and authority. If this were continued, it would be a bad day for India and would cut at the very roots of our nascent democracy. The rule of law should be respected so that the basic structure of our democracy is maintained and further strengthened.” Though he said it during pre-independence time but it holds true till date. Neither people nor politicians have a sense of respect for our judiciary system and authority.

Did They Get Their Share Of Respect?

One more thing which I feel bad about these two leaders that, they did not get their due respect! 2nd October is considered as the International Day of Non-Violence by UN General Assembly as a sign of respect for Mahatma Gandhi but he is never being considered for the Nobel Peace Prize. Similarly, Shastri died under mysterious circumstances but we did not pull enough threads to connect the dots and get a clear picture of what happened to him at Tashkent.

I hope people and our politicians learn a lot from these two leaders. And I also hope these two leaders will get their share of respect from their fellow countrymen.

Happy Mother’s Day


Recently I saw an amazing video on the social networking site, where a person has conducted a fake interview over Skype for people across the world. He offered a position where you need to work for 24/7, without any lunch break or any leaves; with a salary package of zero. Everyone is shocked beyond the limit but later he revealed that he is talking about Mother. She is the one who works for 24/7 a week without any salary. That was a pretty emotional video. But it made us realize how she stood for us in all our difficult times without giving a second thought. And what we gave her in return? Well, I can’t even remember anything pleasant about this. Strange!


Today on the occasion of Mother’s Day, let us do a little which will at least spread a smile on her face. This thought led me to another question. What my mother wants? I don’t know! Where as all I can remember that how she gifted me the exact thing that was there on my mind. She is a genius in deed. Now, coming back to my question again; I took my own time and find out a couple of things that I can do for my mom. It may not be true for all the mothers but it is true for most of the mothers for sure! Here I am sharing my ideas on what mother wants from us?


She does not want costly gift items or fashion products. All she wants is “quality time“. She would be happy beyond your expectation level, if you give her the share of respect she deserves.


I stay away from my mother’s place. So, it won’t be possible for me to do all the things that I am mentioning here. At the max, what I can do is talk with her over phone for longer hours without worrying about my telephone bill. But those who are lucky to have their mother’s presence by their side should do these things. Here I am listing out what I would have done, if I were staying with my mother.


Cook For Her – I would have bake a cake or made some cookies for her. Or may be I would have tried to let her stay out of the kitchen for the whole day by being in charge of the lunch and dinner. I know, I am not a brilliant cook but I am good with internet and that helps a lot. The website hungry happenings suggested the recipe for this beautiful cookie. I find it easy to do and impressive. My mom definitely will love this one.

I Love MOMSome other good looking dishes that I have bookmarked on Piccing are;


Help Her Doing the Household Works- I have noticed that my mom loves to decorate the home. She wants everything neat and tidy, everything on its own place; especially the kitchen section of the home. Surprise her most by cleaning the kitchen and making it look beautiful before she even woke up. Something like this will definitely make her happy.



Take Her Out – She knows you love her and you can make her believe stronger by taking her on a family vacation. But make sure, the places you choose must be one from her wish list. How to know that? That’s a task that you have to do on your own. I can only suggest some of the beautiful places like this;



Thanks Her – Remember that P&G ad.

I simply love the tag line used by this brand, “Thank You Mom”. We should thank our mom for being with us, supporting and love us unconditionally.

Thank you MomHappy Mother’s Day to all the mothers.

नये साल का चाँद


बस मे बैठ, खिड़की से, नये साल के चाँद को देख सोचता हूँ,
पिछले साल भी तो यह चाँद ऐसे ही दिख रहा था,
थोडा बहुत आकार मे अंतर है पर वही रंग, वही सूरत…
शायद यही फरक है चाँद और इंसान मे!

यह साल-दर-साल नहीं बदलता और
वो हर एक पल बदलता रहता है;
इसका रंग हमेशा श्वेत और वो हर दम रंग बदलता रहता है;
यह सीने मे हमेशा एक ही सूरत बसाए बैठा है,
वो वक़्त के साथ दिल के मेहमान बदलता रहता है!

पिछले साल भी कुछ लोगों को देखा बदलते हुए,
यह साल भी कुछ लोग हमे अपने दिल से उतार लेंगे;
यही होता आया है और यही होता रहेगा!

काश ऐसा ना होता;
काश इंसान इंसान नही चाँद होता!

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